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Premature Ejaculation Remedy
At first, like any overexcited teenager, I dabled with the most common premature ejaculation remedies: masturbating before going out on dates (which helps, but becomes less effective as you get older and require more downtime between erections); downing beers; and donning double, even triple, condoms. I even tried to delay orgasm in the heat of the moment by distracting myself with baseball statistics or images of dead people--and let me tell you, thinking about corpses during sex ... definite mood killer.  Later, I graduated to herbal premature ejaculation remedies, topical ointments, and miracle creams advertised in the backs of porn magazines. On one occasion, my little experiments led to an acid burn of my penis in the men's room of a Japanese restaurant.
 In yet another doomed effort, I put the Errol Flynn premature ejaculation remedy to the test: a dab of cocaine on the tip of the penis. The matinee idol once explained that it could be helpful "if you're quick on the trigger." But it didn't work for me, and I doubt it really worked for Flynn. He claimed to have slept with more than 13,000 women in his lifetime. Now, how the hell are you going to do that without being a premature ejaculator?
 The day Tara left for Hong Kong--giving me 3 weeks to shape up or clear out--I spiraled to an all-time low. In a desperate attempt to keep that ring on her finger, I tried every type of radical premature ejaculation remedy therapy. There was biofeedback treatment, in which an electrode was inserted where I least wanted it, and I was encouraged to engage in an activity once thought to cause blindness in teenagers; self-hypnosis tapes that lulled me into such a deep trance with its sounds of water being stopped and started that I woke up soaked in my own urine; and a session with a German "male masturbation specialist" who sternly observed and critiqued my methods of self-pleasure, all the while keeping time with a metronome and commanding me to "stop, start, squeeze; stop, start, squeeze!"
 By the time Tara returned, I was a complete mess. I didn't know if I was coming or going. Or, for that matter, if I'd be coming and then going after having sex with her. And as she emerged from the shower and came to bed, naked and glistening, I was so nervous, I didn't just prematurely ejaculate, I spontaneously ejaculated.
True to her word, she left me. Don't feel bad. I don't. (Anymore.) And don't worry, either. According to the Cosmopolitan survey, less than 10 percent of women say they've dumped a guy because he was quick on the draw. Shortly after we broke up, I overcame PE within a few months, using six techniques. (See the Related Link: "stop premature ejaculation during sex," I was so transformed, and inspired, that I decided to change careers and go down that path myself. Today, I continue to learn about PE, which is exactly what the late sex therapist Helen Singer Kaplan, M.D., Ph.D., advised in what is still considered the definitive guide to conquering PE, titled How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation. My struggles led me not only to my passion in life ... writing about sex and helping others through sex therapy ... but to the love of my life, as well. My short story finally found a happy ending by my searching for a premature ejaculation remedy.
Jim Shaw
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